October 31st, 2015 2:07pm
"Holding on to negative feelings and past circumstances is like placing a lock on your soul."
This quote can mean many things. It can be holding a grudge, harboring resentment, or simply playing the woulda’, coulda’, shouldas over and over again in your brain.
The way I see it, replaying negative events, feeling, and thoughts become, simply, another habit; an activity with which we have become familiar and comfortable. Even if the circumstances were good, continuing to replay them will surely stunt one’s growth and interfere with your ability to create more enjoyable circumstances, as you habitually live in the glory of the past. Our primitive nature, controlled by our automatic brain—the AB—will cause us to fight or flee anything that it processes as dangerous, threatening, or that which makes us feel vulnerable. And that goes with habits. Even if the habits are self-destructive, this brain will force us into them because they are known, familiar, and strangely comfortable. That is what your AB does; that is what my AB does.
Holding on to the negative feelings and past circumstances may have become a habit for you. And if this habit is controlling your life then it means that you unknowingly are taking direction from your AB. This brain will have you fighting and fleeing right back to the regret and torment each time you begin to move forward. This often shows itself in anger, rage, anxiety (fight reactions) or depression (flight reactions).
And what does that cause? Each time we believe, trust, and take direction from our AB it further distances us from our soul, our mind, our divine nature. This is a part of us that is ever-present, yet locked by the constant activity of, and our belief in, our AB. Naturally this is not great for our health and certainly not for our life.
So, how do we unlock access to our soul and begin living the life that is right for us. Action is the most powerful tool to achieve this. Self-talk and affirmations are effective, but taking action and showing yourself that it is safe to trust your soul will shortcut your results. How do you do that? Here are six ideas to get you started.
Unleashing the wonder of our divine nature takes heightened awareness of the dynamic of our primitive nature. Meaningful action has a way of taking away our protective instincts and opens up channels of emotion that will make you healthier in mind, body, and spirit.
© Dr. Charles F. Glassman, CoachMD